If you’ve only read the headlines, this will surprise you.
But I’m not here to rewrite the truth—I’m here to tell the whole of it.
In 2024, I was convicted under the Domestic Abuse (Scotland) Act.
The charge stemmed from messages and images I sent to someone I had been in a long-term relationship with.
The relationship had ended.
I hadn’t fully accepted that.
And I crossed a line.
⚖️ What the Court Actually Said
I pleaded guilty.
There was no trial.
There was no denial.
The judge’s words mattered:
“If it wasn’t for the sexual element of the images—including a photo in your underwear, a striptease with the caption ‘Do you want to see more?’, and a more explicit image—it’s unlikely this would have become criminal.”
Those images were enough.
Enough to make it law.
Enough to turn emotional collapse into criminal responsibility.
🧍♂️ What It Wasn’t
It wasn’t coercive.
It wasn’t predatory.
It wasn’t a stranger.
It wasn’t a campaign.
But it was wrong.
It was confusing.
It was emotionally charged and deeply inappropriate.
And it became criminal because of that.
✅ What I Accepted
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A Community Payback Order
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Ongoing supervision
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Placement on the Sex Offenders Register
Not because I’m a danger to children.
Not because I’m a threat to society.
But because I sent sexual content that crossed a line—during a period of deep emotional instability.
I’ve served my hours.
I attend supervision.
I go to therapy.
And I carry it.
🔄 What I Own
I don’t hide this conviction.
It’s not buried in a footer or a fine print.
It’s here—front-facing—because the only thing worse than doing what I did would be pretending I didn’t.
I don’t ask to be excused.
I ask to be accurately understood.
This was a conviction.
This was a consequence.
This is also part of my transformation.
🔗 Want more?
– Read The Reckoning
– See My About Page
– Explore the Diary